Personally i find when someone offends me it causes my focus to be on myself and negative feelings to arise against the "offender" therefore i desire to forgive them quickly in order to get my focus back on God. It helps to know that God also loves the "offender" and he/she need more light of God in their lives. I confess this is often not possible by just depending on myself for it but I must desire it first, then the Lord blesses my desire and makes it so. It is only by God's grace I can forgive again and again and again.
